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I've been reading about homebirths a lot, since I haven't actually been to one. I was wondering if anyone here has had a homebirth? I think so, but I don't remember who.

I was originally going to title this 'Homebirth', but you know me. I'm all about talking birth, so feel free to tell me about yours, whatever it was! I'm hoping for my second waterbirth, and hopefully my own big tub will suffice. (It's in a corner though. Not good access for a lot of support.) I do like the idea of getting a pool and chilling outside on my land if it's summer though. That could be a lot of fun. But we're trying to go as efficiently as possible since we're paying for a midwife and any doulas we might have, so we'll see.

Also, I'm posting this publicly, but if folks sharing would prefer me to lock it, just let me know.

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jovial_kitten
Jan. 28th, 2011 05:22 am (UTC)
I want to have a homebirth but I've relented because mom and josip both want me to be at the hospital "just in case" but i'm going to do as natural as possible and have a midwive there and mom as well so the doctor can't try to push my delivery along quicker than it wants to go.
Part of me is curious about waterbirth too.
ahavah
Jan. 28th, 2011 05:28 am (UTC)
Are you pregnant? I missed it! Congratulations! *hugs* I think you shouldn't let anyone else talk you out of a birth you want. I wanted to be at the hospital with my first "just in case", but it does seem like you have to be more ready to fight for the birth you want instead of just have it. But Eden's waterbirth was in a hospital and overall, I was very happy with it. Definitely read up on it if it's something you're interested in. Water helped me so much.
jovial_kitten
Jan. 28th, 2011 05:38 am (UTC)
lol Oh no,sorry I'm actually meeting Josip for the first time in person in march and he's visiting here at christmas time and we'll be using protection. I just already have plans for my birth and I know I want to go as natural as possible but I can see the point in being at the hospital just because of my tendency to have panic attacks..but I will be cloth diapering and I am fighting for that and breastfeeding. I'll breastfeed if I have to cry through it or something.
ahavah
Jan. 28th, 2011 05:41 am (UTC)
Oh, whoops! I thought it sounded like you were. Well, you have plenty of time to read and figure out what you're comfortable with. Hope you don't cry through breastfeeding though! I really always enjoyed it. I didn't cloth diaper, but I'm looking at it this time around. Josh really doesn't want to. I'll admit, I'm not the best with poo, so we'll see.
jovial_kitten
Jan. 28th, 2011 05:45 am (UTC)
I've just heard some people have problems..mom didn't with me but I really don't want to use formula at all..I think I'll be ok with expressing the milk to use in a bottle so Josip can have special time with the baby but I sometimes worry I'll have problems breastfeeding and won't be able to and feel like a failure.
ahavah
Jan. 28th, 2011 05:49 am (UTC)
Try not to worry! It's always awkward getting started, even with each new baby. Sometimes baby clicks like a natural, but usually mom and baby both need some help getting started. You just have to not be overly modest, as nurses and lactation consultants grab on and help establish a latch, teach positions, etc. There's a lot of great books you could read ahead of time. Let me know if you ever want suggestions.
theafaye
Jan. 30th, 2011 10:46 am (UTC)
2 sections followed by 2 home births and then a hospital birth. All planned to be at home. So I've pretty much covered the whole range of experiences!
ahavah
Jan. 30th, 2011 05:16 pm (UTC)
Yay! I'm glad someone else answered. I was surprised at the lack of sharing in this post, to be honest. Do you have any good resources or suggestions for someone who is planning their first homebirth? Especially with kids. We've been reading books, and I'll start watching birth videos with them again soon. I'm trying to decide if we need/can afford to get them a doula if they needed extra support, as I'm pretty sure I'm going to be wanting Josh's attentions.
theafaye
Jan. 31st, 2011 04:30 pm (UTC)
There's homebirth.org.uk which is UK based but covers pretty much everything you're going to need to know.

To be honest, the more babies I've had, the less I've prepared in advance. After all my experiences, I know that there's nothing you can really plan for - you just have to take it as it comes. The last baby was really the only time we had someone with us to look after the other children because she specifically wanted to be at the birth and that was just a positive side effect. Most babies are born in the wee hours of the morning, so it wasn't an issue with no.3 and the girls were there for the birth of no.4 while my son was at school, since she was born in the middle of the morning. They didn't get in the way and were just happy to be part of the process. No one was needed to look after them - your girls are older than no.3 was at the time and I think you'll find they'll either get involved or they'll amuse themselves if things are happening during the day. My oldest daughter left the room because I was hurting her ears and she's really sad that she didn't get to see no.5 being born because we had to go to the hospital (and that was also in the wee hours of the morning, so the children weren't woken up, although they would have been if everything had gone to plan).

So I'd play it by ear. If the girls want to be there, then let them be there and if they don't, let them be. You should have two midwives present at the birth anyway (one for you, one for the baby) and what tends to happen is that the second midwife entertains the children. It does all work itself out and for me, a doula would have brought another person into the mix that would have distracted from the family feel you get at a home birth.
ahavah
Jan. 31st, 2011 04:34 pm (UTC)
Thanks! I've seen that site suggested before, but since it was UK, I didn't really look at it closely. I'll have to do that.

I hope you're right about the kids. They tend to get very demanding with attention, and I know I will want Josh and not be in the best place to deal with them. I actually don't think we would have two midwives. I know my midwife has a backup, but it didn't sound like she'd have two there for the birth. I'll have to clarify that when she comes tomorrow. I know we're planning on having the midwife and one of my friends present, and the friend may or may not help out with the kids, depending on how comfortable she is with the actual labor/birth. (Assuming she makes it on time, of course - she lives several hours away.)

I'll do more reading, and I'm sure we'll work out the logistics before the time comes. :)

Thank you!
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