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Marriage has been on my mind quite a bit lately, obviously, so I guess this question is geared more towards married couples, although I'd like to hear from everyone.

First off - I have no idea what to do with a wedding. So much etiquette and massive amounts of expenses and bridezilla craziness. Since Josh and I have been together for six years anyway, and we have an actual family together, we want to be sure that this marriage focuses on our commitment to each other.

So...we basically want to throw an, uh, budgeted wedding and go all out for a honeymoon. Ideally we'd like to take a whole week to just go off by ourselves and become husband and wife. Forget the kids, bills, everything...just drink margaritas and touch and do some new things.

We're not sure where to go. We can put together a modest but meaningful wedding, but we really want something fantastic for the honeymoon. Honestly? I looked at Sandals, which is all-inclusive, but I really wanted the 'high tier' room with a personal butler, and that would be $7000 for a week! *chokegaspgougeeyeballsout* That doesn't even count nifty extras like spa and candlelit beach dinners.

So anyway, my question to you - where did you go on your honeymoon, and why? Or, if you're not married, where would you like to go (feel free to go all out for the 'dream honeymoon')?

We've pretty much never been anywhere (well, we've both been to Disneyworld), so we're open to all suggestions.

Thank you!

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salleesuewho
Apr. 15th, 2007 05:00 am (UTC)
So much fun! As for me, we were 18 when we got married so we spent three days in a cabin with no tv *who needs a tv when you are finally able to have sex legally and without fear of being caught. LOL. We also did the tourist type stuff in Gatlinburg and Pigeon Forge. We also went to Maggie Valley to Ghost Town. I don't think it's there anymore.

Fast forward to now. We'd go on a cruise. We went once and it was fun. We would spend the money on the big room. We'd do all the fun shore excursions.

If a cruise isn't your style; I'd consider the Sandals thing or another type of resort in a locale that feels right to y'all.

Best wishes to you.

ahavah
Apr. 15th, 2007 05:22 am (UTC)
That sounds like fun! We just did the Ripley's Aquarium in Gatlinburg, and that was nice. There's a LOT to do there. I went to Ghost Town when I was a kid, and guess what!!!! It's opening back up! Josh and I just saw a flyer for it last week.

We're really considering a cruise. We've always wanted to take a cruise together. Josh says he'd like to take a northern cruise up to Alaska, but I might also like to go someplace a little more tropical for a honeymoon. I think the trick will be to find something all-inclusive, so we're sure it's handled long before the wedding.

Thank you!
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james_the_evil1
Apr. 15th, 2007 06:06 am (UTC)
My opinion on honeymoons is "why ruin the relationship by getting married to begin with" :-)
ahavah
Apr. 15th, 2007 06:42 am (UTC)
No, no, no, happiest time of our lives. :D
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angelofmysoul
Apr. 15th, 2007 07:16 am (UTC)
If I had a choice of a honeymoon, I'd want to go to Kiowa (sp?) NC. Thomas has ALWAYS talked about it.

We didn't get a honeymoney because I was on pelvic rest and wasn't doing so hot. We didn't even have a wedding night. BUT If I was to choose. Kiowa. I like Branson or Kansas City Too. :) If you like the artsy - historic kind of things, KC is awesome too!
ahavah
Apr. 15th, 2007 03:30 pm (UTC)
I don't know where Kiowa is. I don't think I've heard of it. Do you know anymore about it? We're in NC, so that may be an option. We were kind of thinking to go a little further away, but out options are open.
mrsgirlyduck
Apr. 15th, 2007 07:27 am (UTC)
We got married in Hawaii. The wedding was a two and half minute affair in a judge's office, followed by 8 days in paradise. Perfect.

We rented a house in Hilo, being on the Big Island much less expensive and touristy (which is what we were looking for) so it was a week of quiet beaches and just the two of us time.
ahavah
Apr. 15th, 2007 03:31 pm (UTC)
That's awesome! I'd really love to go to Hawaii, but I was afraid that it was such a Honeymoon racket that it would be crowded and expensive. I might have to look into Hilo, as it sounds very beautiful. Especially if you actually had the appearance of seclusion...yum.
satoribee
Apr. 15th, 2007 07:39 am (UTC)
first honeymoon, Lake Louise Canada. went in the first week of November between busy summer and busy ski seasons and had the whole place to ourselves. it was like living in a castle! and since i was from the desert, i loved the cold and snow, though we mostly stayed insdie.

second honeymoon, the opening of California Adventure. but then, a few months later, we won a trip to Hawaii and we always looked at that as more of a honeymoon. it's very romantic, relaxing... it is "ahola". if you can swing it and have never been go for it.

but the main thing to remember is to do something you both will really enjoy, something you've been dying to do. now's the time. dream big!

and congrats again :-)
ahavah
Apr. 15th, 2007 03:34 pm (UTC)
Wow, those both sound pretty fun. I've never been to Canada, but I can see how having a big place to yourself could be romantic. That's part of the reason we'd kind of like to go in the off-season, if where ever we go has an off-season. lol

I bet winning a trip to Hawaii was awesome squared. How did you win it? I've always wanted to go there.

And thank you! :D
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notagain
Apr. 15th, 2007 08:58 am (UTC)
(followed you here from budget_weddings)

Our honeymoon was a Nile Cruise, it was absolutely beautiful. Sunny, interesting things to see and do, plenty of time to relax and watch the world go by and just be together. But not so much we could get bored!
ahavah
Apr. 15th, 2007 03:37 pm (UTC)
Hello and welcome! Thank you so much for coming by and giving your input. A Nile Cruise sounds absolutely awesome! We've both always wanted to take a cruise together, but I think Josh wants to try something other than the stereotypical Caribbean thing (not that I'd mind either way). I hadn't even thought about something like the Nile. I bet that was amazing. Who did you go through, if you don't mind my asking?
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ahavah
Apr. 15th, 2007 03:40 pm (UTC)
Thank you for that link! That looks really cool. Which room did you get? I'm not sure about the 7 foot Champagne tub - Josh has a fear of heights! ;) lol
jenny_evergreen
Apr. 15th, 2007 11:24 am (UTC)
We didn't have much money, so we decided to drive someplace. In the interests of not spending large chunks of our honeymoon on the road (which, actually, could be cool if done right), we looked within a few hours of home. In the end, we picked Galena, Illinois, which is a very touristy area. We had a cabin for a weekend, then spent the rest of the week in a much less expensive B&B. The B&B was a disappointment; it was plagued by a musty basement smell and the whole reason we booked, a murder mystery party, was cancelled. :\ But we had a good time anyway, and enjoyed some of the touristy things.
If I could have, I'd've probably just shut us up in that cabin for the whole week. ;)
ahavah
Apr. 15th, 2007 03:54 pm (UTC)
I've always wanted to try one of those murder mystery parties. That's a bummer that it got canceled. I considered just finding a nice B&B around here, since we live in a pretty touristy area anyway, but we're all sorts of in the mood to go far far away. lol
paleologa
Apr. 15th, 2007 12:37 pm (UTC)
Not married myself, but if I were to choose a place to honeymoon, it'd be a villa in Tuscany.
ahavah
Apr. 15th, 2007 03:54 pm (UTC)
Oh, that's another good idea I never thought of. I wonder how easy that would be...Thanks! :)
zarhooie
Apr. 15th, 2007 12:52 pm (UTC)
My church has a huuuuge camp (a sleep-over camp in the summer and a confrence center on the off-season), so I am fully planning on getting married there, eventually. For my honeymoon, I'd like to go to Nova Scotia again. I'd probably stay in a hotel in Halifax for the first night and last night and spend the rest of the time in Northern Nova Scotia, maybe taking a class at the Gaelic College and DEFINATELY wandering around in some of the teeny tiny towns.
ahavah
Apr. 15th, 2007 04:04 pm (UTC)
OMG I'm totally loving that web site! lol I tried to teach myself Gaelic in college and it didn't really work. I want to join their online course now.
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citrinepoint
Apr. 15th, 2007 01:45 pm (UTC)
We got married in Manitou Springs Colorado in October. It was gorgeous. We had our Honeymoon in Vienna Austria it was magical.
ahavah
Apr. 15th, 2007 04:06 pm (UTC)
Ah, I actually don't know all that much about Vienna. I should look it up. I'm really quite pitiful with geography. *blush* I had a friend from Austria in high school. :)
lolacat
Apr. 15th, 2007 01:51 pm (UTC)
I love being married. Usually.

We went to New Orleans for our honeymoon and had a great time, although most of it was walking the city and site seeing, not relaxing. If I were planning a second honeymoon for pure relaxation, I would keep these things in mind:

- I wouldn't want to spend two days flying or traveling somewhere far away. I wouldn't want to be jet lagged.
- I would want a really nice hotel room with tv, jacuzzi, etc. I don't think a personal butler would be a good idea: I don't want to pull some weird fake aristocracy move on someone who is already probably oppressed, class-wise. I would want a lot of solitude with my husband.
- I'd want a place with a small kitchenette if I could so that we wouldn't have to eat out every single meal (that got REALLY old in N.O.).
- I would pick somewhere with a good mix of activities to do or places to go, yet mostly want to relax, read, swim, etc.
- I want somewhere that I won't have to drive - no rented cars or anything. I want to walk everywhere or have everything brought to me.

For location, I can think of a lot of places I would go. Santa Fe is absolutely gorgeous, and they have lots of gorgeous places up in the mountains that are incredible and luxurious. Cabo San Lucas in Mexico is a dream, but a bit of a flight. You might look into really nice places in Florida since you live close by (cheaper flight). A cruise can be fantastic, I know two people who did cruises and LOVED them once they got used to the boat, and you can go to a lot of amazing locations with a cruise.
ahavah
Apr. 15th, 2007 04:12 pm (UTC)
New Orleans is a neat idea, and I've never been there. I don't know, we really might be leaning toward the cruise now. I have to disagree with you on the butler thing, though. I don't think they're oppressed at all. I was looking at those Sandals deals, and *I* want to be a butler with them! lol They all graduated from the great big English butler college (which I didn't know was real). I was wondering about the stranger thing, too, but I like the idea of someone who's making sure my honeymoon is running smoothly and bringing me free drinks all the time. lol

I hear the kitchenette thing. That's what we did in Chicago. That's one of the reasons I'd ideally like to find an all-inclusive package, so we don't have to worry about budgeting (or eating!) on the trip. If I could find a nice cruise package that covered everything for a decent price, we'd probably do that.

And definitely a jacuzzi suite. It's not a honeymoon without a private jacuzzi. *knocks on wood so as not to jinx anything*
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badgerbear
Apr. 15th, 2007 02:25 pm (UTC)
On our honeymoon, we went to Las Vegas, which neither of us had ever been to. I was apprehensive at first, but ended up having a really wonderful time. It was like Disney World for adults. Lots to do, you can walk everywhere or take the monorail, or a taxi. There are shows every night, things are open 24 hours/day, and lots of food options, though I'd suggest off the strip for cheaper more authentic food. It was wonderful to really get away and be on our own for the week - no phones, no friends or family in our place - just what we needed.

I agree with theoumotel, on basically everything. I would only add that it's important to feel like you are far away even if you aren't, because after all the craziness of the wedding, you are going to want to be someplace that feels unreachable by everyone else, and just have the time to spend with your husband! Especially in a relationship in which you have already been living together and have a family, the complete change of scenery and pace will make the event feel more real and special. Otherwise, you just end up going home after the ceremony and sleeping in the same bad you two always have, and that's a little anticlimactic.

So happy for you! Congratulations again, and good luck picking your honeymoon!
ahavah
Apr. 15th, 2007 04:14 pm (UTC)
Yeah, you definitely mentioned all the reasons we're wanting to go all-out on the honeymoon. I hadn't thought of Las Vegas. That might be neat, and bonus if we can win a jackpot. ;)

Than you so much!
wikkid_smaht
Apr. 15th, 2007 02:44 pm (UTC)
my partner and i are going on a 12-day mediterranean cruise! we've never been anywhere (other than florida, really) and we are beside ourselves excited. it is expensive, though. but, you can get an inside (no-window/no balcony) room for, i think $4k. other cruises, though, are way cheaper. carribean cruises, ones that leave from the states, shorter cruises...
it seemed like you could get a stellar 7-day carribean cruise for like $1500. the best part? free 24 hour room service!
ahavah
Apr. 15th, 2007 04:19 pm (UTC)
it seemed like you could get a stellar 7-day carribean cruise for like $1500. the best part? free 24 hour room service!

Really?? I'm definitely going to look closer at the cruise lines, then. A mediterranean cruise sounds very awesome. I wouldn't mind shelling out extra for something really spectacular.

Have fun! And thank you so much for sharing!
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iynx
Apr. 15th, 2007 03:09 pm (UTC)
We didn't have a honeymoon. We secretly got married in May the day we found out I had cancer. We had the "wedding" in September 11 days after 9/11 air travel was in a tizzy and I had to go back to work anyway.

We went to Kauai and got engaged there, so that was kind of our honeymoon 2 years in advance :(

We stayed at the Hyatt at Poipu Beach and it was HEAVEN! I loved it. PW went all out, but it can be done for less.
ahavah
Apr. 15th, 2007 04:23 pm (UTC)
Oh my, I never knew that about you! I think it's terribly romantic that you went out and got married, though. Hawaii seems an extremely popular choice, so maybe I'll investigate that further.

Thank you!
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