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No, no, no, no, no! Just . . . NO!

Reiki is a form of energy healing, one which requires a certain amount of faith on behalf of the recipient (well, to an extent, but I won't go into depth here; that's a whole different topic). Reiki, as I have mentioned, has its own intelligence - this means that if you send Reiki to someone who is NOT open and receptive to it, Reiki would not have any effect on him/her.

I have mentioned before that I feel it is a completely valid option to 'ask etherically' if Reiki can be sent. For instance, I'm on the prayer list at church, where prayers come through confidentially. This means that I can't directly email the person who sent in the prayer and ask them if they would like to receive Reiki. So I have no problems following my inner guidance, or as some people term it, asking the recipient's Higher Self. Personally, I always pray first and add, "Please allow this Reiki to affect those open and receptive to it. If this person would not be comfortable with the energy, please send it to Gaia that she may use it to heal."

Some people don't agree. Some people think that you must have concrete written or verbal approval. Whatever you feel comfortable with; I think asking on a soul level is valid.


Is the person has specifically told you that NO, they are NOT open to Reiki healing, you can't just 'ask his Higher Self', get a yes, and force it upon him!

If a person SAYS no, that IS his Higher Self - that is why we are all here on earth, using Free Will to walk our own personal paths.

Yes, Reiki has Divine Intelligence and would not harm someone, or effect them at all, if they didn't want it. But it is JUST NOT RIGHT as a healer to make that decision for them and attempt to force it upon them.

Every Reiki tradition that I am familiar with teaches that some form of permission is necessary. To go against someone's direct wishes is


How can you be a healer and perpetuate this? That's akin to the doctor who says, "Oh, you have a large baby so we'll need to induce Friday", when really he's going golfing this weekend and your baby ends up being born at a whopping 7 pounds.

It violates informed consent! It violates Free Will!

Sure, if your father has a life threatening illness, you might follow the pull of your heart rather than his direct wishes. But what really, really bothers me is that everyone else in that thread in one of my healing community has so far said:

"Distance Reiki is being sent."

*blink blink*

It's one of the first things you learn as a Reiki healer. How on earth can you countenance that?

THIS is why 'new age freaky shit' like Reiki gets a bad name. Because if we can't stick to our own mandates and uphold our own teachings, if we disregard our client's/family's/friend's/perfect stranger's wishes, how can we expect the world to trust us as legitimate healers?



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Mar. 14th, 2006 07:30 pm (UTC)
I used to work for a holistic Chiropractor and massage therapist that practiced Reiki!!!
Mar. 14th, 2006 09:24 pm (UTC)
Reiki is becoming well-known - and with good reason! It does so much good in the world. It just irks me to see practitioners violating such basic 'rules', because we must hold ourselves to a certain level of accountability.
Mar. 14th, 2006 09:26 pm (UTC)
I think the downfall of the medical community is the way that everyone is so sue happy! It really is sad.
Mar. 14th, 2006 07:35 pm (UTC)
I believe that many Reiki healers get a bad wrap from those who think that they can make it happen.

The receipent HAS to be willing. Reiki will do nothing and will go where it's needed if it is being directed at someone who is not open to the energy. We are just conduits for the energy, we don't REALLY have the control over it that some people think we do.

Those who truly help those in need are able to discuss the concerns with those who are unwilling. Perhaps with time that person will be open to the energies. But a TRUE healer will know when and how to approach that person.
Mar. 14th, 2006 09:27 pm (UTC)
It's so true, what you say about us only being conduits and not controlling the energy. But still, I think it is important for us as professionals to abide by certain inalienable rights - the right of the recipient to choose. Just because 'Reiki can do no harm' does not mean that we get to force it upon those who straight up say, "No thank you, I'm not comfortable with this." In all things, especially in a healing profession, we should maintain honor.
Mar. 14th, 2006 09:29 pm (UTC)
There's no way you can really "force" Reiki on anyone anyway. If you do encounter someone who is not responsive but still feel the need to send to them I was always taught to send in the interest of the greater good. If the energies are meant to reach them they will otherwise they will go elsewhere. Still no harm.
Mar. 14th, 2006 09:39 pm (UTC)
I agree completely. Except that I believe if you feel the need to send it when it has specifically been said "NO", that means that perhaps the healer is in need of a Reiki treatment to come to terms with his/her own emotional baggage regarding the blatant "NO".

I was just saddened to see that all of the healers flouted such basic Reiki principles, and no Reiki Practitioners backed me up when I showed concern.
Mar. 14th, 2006 09:53 pm (UTC)
The "no" is definitely a "no". There is nothing that will change that, other than discussing their concerns and perhaps informing them. I also think that the healer you refer to may want to look at their own life before trying to help another.

Usually the "greater good" way of doing things are when you don't have the opportunity to ask, but you wish to send.

I don't think you are wrong at all for saying what you are saying, you have very valid concerns about how we as practitioners are viewed as a whole. I truly hope that there will be a better understanding by people as a whole. Reiki is being more accepted I had an insurance carrier who actually covered Reiki treatments.
Mar. 14th, 2006 10:10 pm (UTC)
Wow - which insurance company? I'd love to give them my service!
Mar. 14th, 2006 10:12 pm (UTC)
I know I thought about that too:) I had A company called CCN USA. They seem to really be into the holistic deal. Kinda cool really.
Mar. 14th, 2006 10:05 pm (UTC)
Oh, and I thought of something...
...that really, I think, clarifies my feelings on thi0s.

Reiki can do no harm, true. But the practitioners can do a whole lot of harm by not honoring a person's choices, and by misrepresenting our calling.
Mar. 14th, 2006 10:11 pm (UTC)
Re: Oh, and I thought of something...
The practicioners sure. If they are pressuring or demanding that they help, can be very stressful for the already "injured" client. I agree wholeheartedly with you.

I don't offer to help anyone unless they give me a reason to ask if they want the help. I will sit and listen to someone talk about all their problems, but also being able to sense that they are unwilling for the help is something that comes "built in" (if you will) to the gift. A practitioner will know if they are needed or wanted. Otherwise they can talk with the person or just wish them to have a good day.

Sometimes you may also be surprised that sometimes just talking to a person may help heal them in some way so even if you aren't doing hands on Reiki perse' you still have the gift of the energy around you.

Mar. 14th, 2006 08:25 pm (UTC)
Anyone with knowledge about energy, qi, Spirit etc; will understand that intent and will are intimately tied, no matter the intent it carries a negative charge if forced, it begins the slippery slope into that which is dark. ~shaking my head~ Force under the guise of "helping" is still force.
Mar. 14th, 2006 09:34 pm (UTC)
I disagree with you just a bit. Reiki is so wonderful because it is non-dualistic. It's not like white magic or black magic, good medicine or bad medicine, light or dark... It is impossible to use Reiki for harm. At the very most, Reiki would just not have an effect on someone who didn't want it.

But that does not give us, the human/healer, the right to violate someone's direct wishes. I believe that people in helping/healing professions (especially those people!) need to conduct themselves with honor and professionalism. No means no! It's so basic.

Force under the guise of "helping" is still force.

Exactly. Whether it can cause harm or not, it's just not good form. I can totally understand the person in question missing that point, as s/he just learned that the father has a terminal illness. But even after I posted the reminder that it is against all things Reiki to force it upon one who has said, "No thank you, I'm not comfortable with that", all of the other people just went right on along with it.

And I was under the misimpression that spiritual healers were a bit ahead of the game. :( I'm just so sad to see so many of my colleagues defying basic Reiki Teachings, and that (so far) none of the healers seems to agree with me.
Mar. 14th, 2006 09:52 pm (UTC)
Perhaps i was not clear in what i was saying, no Reiki can't be "made" to be something it isn't (IE harmful) however the energy carried with forcing ones will upon another IS harmful, period. Hence forced intent even if desired for good carries a negative "charge" so to speak... but thats going off into another area. Just wanted to clarify that, i wasn't saying Reiki could be used to harm.
Mar. 14th, 2006 10:07 pm (UTC)
Ah, ok, I see what you mean. Yes, Reiki cannot cause harm, but if a practitioner's personal confusion and energy begin to muddle things, it could very well send 'negative' vibes.

Sorry I read that wrong.
Mar. 15th, 2006 01:07 am (UTC)
hopefully this will clear things up
since this entry was basically written about my entries let me just restate what i thought was clear in my original postings or postings since then.

i NEVER forced anything upon anyone. period.

once again i will try to explain. the way i was taught is that you can send reiki, and leave it open to be accepted now or later if the recipiant changes. AND IF BEFORE YOU GIVE REIKI YOU SAY "ONLY IN THE HIGHEST AND BEST" THE REIKI WILL NOT GO TO THE PERSON IF YOU MAKE THIS STATEMENT BECAUSE SINCE REIKI IS CONSCIOUS IT WILL BE ABLE TO TELL IF THE PERSON IS IN ANYWAY OPEN TO RECEIVING IT.

i completetly understand that i am not the one controlling the reiki. i am not interfering with anything. i ask it to reach him if he is willing to receive it on any level. if not at all then nothing.

i thank you for your concern for the well being of my father and the way i or others may be handling it but please listen and understand what i have said. i have not violated ANY FREE WILL WHATSOEVER.

"Force under the guise of "helping" is still force." there hasnt been any force. i have made it clear to the universe that my intention was not to force that only for the highest and best.

i dont know how else to state this any other way.
Mar. 15th, 2006 04:16 pm (UTC)
Re: Again I'd like to apologize
I really didn't mean for any of this to be an insult of your beliefs or adding anything negative to the situation with your father. It was only one sentence in your original post that sparked a line of thought in me - a desire to look closer at my ethics as a healer. I don't even begin to know what the situation in your family is.

Mostly, ethics and standards have been on my mind a lot lately, because I am in the final process of completing my certification as a doula. Some doulas see certification as unnecessary, and some balk at the idea of a universal Standard of Practice.

I'm also in the process of putting together my first Reiki Classes. I have several friends and family who are interested - and sick, and who could really benefit - so I've been looking more closely at what my intent and beliefs as a healer are. It occurred to me that energy workers are not required to have any personal code of ethics or standards of practice, but it has been on my mind very much that I would like to draft one for my own personal use.

I'm so sorry that it came across as a personal attack. Your post only served to inspire clarity in me for something I had been musing fuzzily about for two weeks. I am now in the process of drafting my own personal code of ethics as a healer, and I'm very thankful. In my original post, I only meant that I personally didn't feel that I should add him to my nightly distance reiki healings, but that I would most happily hold all of you in light and love and affirm your perfectness.

Many Blessing,
Mar. 15th, 2006 07:27 pm (UTC)
Re: Again I'd like to apologize
i do respect your desire to do the thing you feel is right. which is why in my original post i did say to do whatever whoever read it feels comfortable doing. i understand what it is you were curious about and as i have said i do agree with you that reiki cannot and should not be forced.

ethics are important for healers and lightworkers to have. i tried to be as clear as possible to the universe when i asked that reiki be sent if he was open. that way my will is left out of the equation and i can let the All That Is decide something that is beyond me comprehension. should it be that he accepts reiki then wonderful. should it be that he does not i accept that that is his free will to choose that. usually when i send distance reiki i ask that if the recipiant does not want it or does not need it that it will go to the nearest being that does need it. that way everyone wins.

i am going to assume you have been taught usui reiki or a more traditional form of reiki, i was taught shamballa reiki. unfortunately with us healers there is no definate manual of what to do in all given circumstances so i go with what feels right since my guides always tell me that i cant mess up reiki and anything that i do i should ask for the highest and best so that they can work with the divine plan. i trust that i am not the one making the reiki happen. i am simply the vessel, the channel from which it comes forth. i trust that there are many beings in other realms that known better than me what is best, because unfortunately it is not always as clear as we think it is.

i think that is you are going to work with reiki professionally, and as a doula professionally you should have certificates for people to see, because that is what people trust in this age. its a piece of paper but means alot for some people.

thank you for challenging me and apologizing, i apologize for my lack of clarity at times. i just wanted you to know and understand that i do follow the ethic of free will and always will. :-)

Mar. 15th, 2006 09:04 pm (UTC)
Re: Again I'd like to apologize
Thank you so much. I'm so glad to see that everything's cleared up!

I'm actually attuned to Medicine Reiki, which is a blend of Traditional Usui and Cree Medicine teachings. I agree with you completely, and I wasn't meaning to address you personally so much as the issue of those who deny permission.

Yes, I have my certificates. I think the ability and passion make a healer, but you're totally right about people trusting a certificate. Plus, it shows that you've put forth effort to invest time, energy, and money into training.

Thank you so much for your understanding.
Mar. 15th, 2006 08:24 pm (UTC)
My 2 cents....
A highly contentious topic! Here are my thoughts....

Reiki is not conscious. It is energy.

In the same way that water will flow to the lowest point, thereby creating balance, so too does energy (and Reiki). This is the 'consciousness' that people speak of…it is merely a natural law, a similar idea to gravity. However, if a person directs water, via man-made dams, for example, it can go somewhere else. This is the same effect that a person's intention has on energy (and Reiki) and any spirit beings.

Reiki in its pure form does not harm.

Yet how many of us can TRULY say that when we send Reiki, it is not contaminated by our own personal energy. There is NO ONE that I know of and I some some awesome healers. I also do not believe that our motives are always in our consciousness; hence we cannot be sure of exactly what the flavor is of the personal energy. It is the addition of personal energy which can cause harm.

Here are some LJ posts I’ve collected on this topic…

Mar. 15th, 2006 10:27 pm (UTC)
Re: My 2 cents....
Thank you so much for sharing. I always love reading your Reiki posts, because you're so much more eloquent than I am.

I do agree with your views on permission, although I do still think distance Reiki and following our intuition/guidance can be valid. I was taught - and firmly believe, after working with it - that Reiki is divinely guided energy. If, as I said in my example, I ask that it be only accepted by those willing, or instead go to Gaia, I trust the consciousness of the energy to do so.

I used the anonymous prayer line at my church as an example, but maybe a better one would be when the Tsunamis hit the east, or the hurricane hit the Gulf Coast. I could not get everyone's explicit permision, but I definitely used my tactic of sending energy to those who would want it, with all unwanted (or all I could!) energy going to Gaia herself.

But I make sure to be very upfront (and hopefully educational) about my Reiki path. In one of your links, you mentioned your masseuse friend. I am the same way with my doula clients. I have learned that Reiki flows through me every time I attend a birth. The energy is just powerful, and I'm sure part of it is to keep me level headed, focused, and energized as I support the mother. Especially with long births, it can be pretty physically grueling for all parties (emotionally/mentally/spiritually/energetically, too!) I make sure my clients have all the information on Reiki, just as I do with any support measures, and allow them to choose whether they would like it or not.

For the most part, the instances are extremely rare when I don't speak with someone directly. I do feel that at times that following your guidance is acceptable, but especially with things such as earth catastrophies and the like. I hope that clarifies my personal views on it, and at the same time I agree with you. I hope that makes sense.

Thank you so much!
Mar. 16th, 2006 08:46 am (UTC)
I've nothing new to add, but found myself nodding enthusiastically to much that has been written here. I too will only send reiki if I have some sense that it would be welcomed (however I arrive at that sense).

Thank you for adding me.
Mar. 16th, 2006 02:01 pm (UTC)
My pleasure! And thank you so much for your feedback on this. I'm glad to know that so many people do, in fact, agree.
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