The fall from the top is long, and there are many sharp rocks at the bottom

Mar. 15th, 2006 at 12:30 PM

I've been walking around like hot stuff ever since I learned that I'd defeated my third plateau, now weigh less than I have since having Eden, and am over half-way to my weight loss goal.

I'd never put much stock in the deadly sin theory; it just doesn't vibe with my personal philosophies. However, someone out there feels I exhibited a bit too much pride. Last night I was dealt a crushing lesson in humility.

"So when's your baby due?"

I blinked, because I was honestly dumbfounded to hear such a thing.

I struggled against my initial reaction, which was to flip the mouthy old lady off and say a hollow, "It's not."

It took all of my willpower to smile pleasantly and say - with pride (do I learn?) - "I just had a baby, actually" (nevermind that she's seven months old today) and chat pleasantly for ten excrutiatingly long minutes about names and birth weights. Then I escaped to the car and cried.

Current Mood:devastated

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birthingway

Mar. 15th, 2006 06:40 pm (UTC)

:-( oh, the horror!

we all live in horror of both hearing and saying such a thing.

*hugs*

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ahavah

Mar. 15th, 2006 08:54 pm (UTC)

Yeah, this was my first time. And I thought I was doing so well...

Thanks for the hugs.

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nedia782

Mar. 15th, 2006 06:50 pm (UTC)

Ohhh nooo!! Im so sorry!!! I had the same thing happen at a birthday party, but the woman was kind of drunk, so for about 15 mi nutes shes going on and on about how this was going to be a BIG boy, and she was being pretty loud. I was MORTIFIED!!!! Im so sorry you had to listen to that and then still try to maintain composure for a 10 minute conversation :( As long as YOU know you look good, thats all that matters :) Hope you have a better day..

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ahavah

Mar. 15th, 2006 08:56 pm (UTC)

OMG, your's sounds worse!

Im so sorry you had to listen to that and then still try to maintain composure for a 10 minute conversation

I tell you, it was really the hardest thing I've done in a long time.

:( As long as YOU know you look good, thats all that matters :)

I've since changed my mind. :(

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nedia782

Mar. 15th, 2006 09:07 pm (UTC)

Im sorry :( You were so happy in your post the other day :( Dont let some old bag get you down. Youve lost so much weight, more than I could imagine losing. I know its easy for me to say being so removed from your situation, but I really am sorry you had to deal with that. I doubt there is anyting else I can say to cheer you up. :"(

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ahavah

Mar. 15th, 2006 09:09 pm (UTC)

Aw, I'm just having a pity-party. Kindness from such nice friends helps a lot. :)

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nedia782

Mar. 15th, 2006 09:10 pm (UTC)

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flamespirit

Mar. 15th, 2006 07:41 pm (UTC)

Oh Gods! I am so sorry this happened. It kind of happened to me too. I lost a whole lot of weight and a woman I hardly knew in the company cafeteria said "Oh, I see you've had the baby now. Congrats!". Mmmmm well...I was as hurt as you. I merely said "Well actually no, I never was pregnant. I was just fat"...and let her deal with the resulting embarassment. Maybe that was cruel. But sometimes people need to be clobbered over the head before they get the concept of 'sensitivity'.
Sending {{hugs}}

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ahavah

Mar. 15th, 2006 08:57 pm (UTC)

Yeah, that's what I wanted to do too, but she was already so chatty. Plus, I had to prepay for gas so Josh could pump it, but I was going to the bathroom and then going to pick up drinks, so I actually had to face her twice...If I could have just run out the door, I'd have been much more blunt about it.

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fierceawakening

Mar. 15th, 2006 07:49 pm (UTC)

Dear gods.

Pardon me while I nonconsensually beat said woman with a large and very thuddy implement. GAK.

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ahavah

Mar. 15th, 2006 08:58 pm (UTC)

Re: Dear gods.

:)

Thanks, what a sweetie! At least you made me smile. I've been so mooning over it since then. I even had bad dreams last night. *must center*

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lilyinchains

Mar. 15th, 2006 08:12 pm (UTC)

Some women are incredibly catty. If she was someone you see here and there she might have been jealous about your weight loss. If she is a generally a sweet person than she is an idiot. You never say that to someone unless you are sure about the pregnancy otherwise it is just plain mean whether it was intentional or not.

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ahavah

Mar. 15th, 2006 09:00 pm (UTC)

Yeah, she's a new lady at the gas station. She was just incredibly, incredibly mouthy (which is why I couldn't get away for ten minutes). Yeah, I thought she was in bad form, too. If I didn't go there often and wasn't having to deal with her a lot, I would have been more to-the-point. As it was, I just tried not to be mortified in front of the line of customers. :(

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azaelia_culnamo

Mar. 15th, 2006 08:37 pm (UTC)

*Hugs*

Saying "I'm not pregnant" still would have been appropriate, but in a way, it shows strength that you didn't flip her off. She probably could've used a reminder that you don't say things like that, but maybe humiliating her back would only add to stuff. I probably would've just walked away.

Anyway... try not to let her get to you. And for all you know, she thought you were pregnant because you were wearing a pink shirt, and she associates that with pregnancy. Seriously - sometimes older people get odd ideas. I know enough to know that.

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ahavah

Mar. 15th, 2006 09:06 pm (UTC)

Horizontal stripes, actually. There's one lesson learned. :P

I would have said something and set her straight, except she's a new cashier and I stop there all the time. Josh can just go in from now on.

Thanks for the hugs!

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