Ahavah Ehyeh (ahavah) wrote,
Ahavah Ehyeh

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Congratulations, Katie Holmes....I guess

There are so many things about This Article that bother me. First, allow me to explain that I am possibly biased. I lost any smidge of respect I may have had for Tom Cruise after his behavior when Nicole Kidman had her miscarriage after years of TTC. His comments on Brooke Shield's postpartum depression only cemented my revoltion. "When you talk about postpartum, you can take people today, women, and what you do is you use vitamins. There is a hormonal thing that is going on, scientifically, you can prove that. But when you talk about emotional, chemical imbalances in people, there is no science behind that. You can use vitamins to help a woman through those things." (A hormonal thing, Guru-Tom? That's called a chemical imbalance, as estrogen, progesterone, and thyroid levels plummet...)

At any rate, now that Katie is expecting, celebrity watchers wonder if Katie will be having a "Silent Scientology Birth." To quote the article: ...The church's "silent birth"

guidelines during delivery...means no music and no

talking during the birth, which also means no

screaming during the pains of labor.

Ok, first I take issue once again with the media perpetuating negative views of such a beautiful and miraculous thing as childbirth. "No screaming during the pains of labor"? In third world countries where they don't see shows like Baby Story or sitcoms dramatizing birth, they don't even EXPECT it to hurt. And so often times it doesn't. I personally never felt the urge to scream, but if that helps the laboring woman, she should feel comfortable and encouraged to do so!

No music and no talking? Birth should be a beautiful ritual, where sacred and calming space is created by the birthing family and their support people. As a doula, I can't imagine ANY birth where the mother isn't told by someone, anyone, "YOU ARE SO STRONG AND BEAUTIFUL! YOU ARE DOING GREAT!"

It gets worse.

Newborns cannot ... even [be] spoken to for the

first seven days of their lives, believing that babies

go through so much pain during the birth, they

shouldn't have to experience any further discomfort

or sensory experience that could return later in life

to haunt them.

If they've had such a painful and trying experience, THE BABIES NEED TO HEAR THEIR PARENTS VOICES! They need to be cuddled and loved and told, "It's ok, baby. We're here. We love you so much! It's so good to finally see you!" Will that honestly haunt them?

When my daughter Ivy was born, her Daddy made some wonderfully encouraging comment to me. Ivy immediately lifted her head off my chest, turned, and looked for her Daddy. She wasn't crying. She wasn't traumatized. She wanted to meet him and hear him say her name.

Scientologists also ban the use of pain medications. Now I am a staunch advocate for natural birth, having had both my babies naturally. But as a doula, I am also an advocate for every woman making her own choices when it comes to birthing. I'm also a fan of Founding Scientologist L. Ron Hubbard, whose Writers of the Future contest is one of the greatest things available to spec writers (and one I aspire to win). But really, I don't think L. Ron Hubbard ever birthed a baby. When he does, then he can tell women that pain medication is not necessary during labor.

Congratulations, Katie Holmes. May your baby's birth be a beautiful and holy event.

Tags: birth, doula

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