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Ooooh, Shiny New Tag!

I'd like to give a hearty huzzah and woot woot to my shiny new tag, TTC! For those who don't know, TTC stands for "Trying to Conceive".

I may be jumping the gun only slightly, but I'm super excited and so here is my first TTC post!

After over a month of nearly fruitless searching, we have finally been given the name and email address of a semi-local midwife! This was the big step we'd been waiting for! I still have my IUD, but if this midwife works out, then we will get it removed and begin the process of actually TTC. In fact, Josh told me last night after we confirmed an appointment for the midwife that we should go ahead and consider ourselves TTC, since it's all starting to fall into place, even if we're not actively trying yet. That was one of the most romantic things that man's ever said to me!

It is our fervent goal to have a homebirth this time around. I have awesome births, we finally have a beautiful home that I would feel comfortable birthing in, and we want the whole family to be involved in the birth. I am so very excited at the prospect! I've never gotten to doula at a homebirth, either, so this would be my first experience. Josh and I have been having some really good discussions lately, and we're both on pretty much the same page. (Oh sure, I want like 10 more kids and he'd be happy with just one, but we'll work that out...) So this midwife has responded, she does annual care in addition to prenatal care, is very excited and experienced with homebirth, comfortable with IUDs and their removal, and will be driving all the way out to our place Wednesday morning to meet with us and see if we're all a good fit together. She seems really sweet and is the ONLY one we've been able to find even remotely near us, so I really hope so. I'm eager to get going!

Josh and I are still discussing our timeline. As long as we can find a midwife that we feel comfortable with, Josh is set to get started. He wants goats &/or sheep first, and I kind of feel like we should make the long drive out to see Tina's new house in Wilmington before we invest in any more animals, so we're contemplating another trip to NC sooner than we'd anticipated. The IUD has really played havoc with my cycles, so I kind of want to get it removed and chart my cycles for a couple of months to get a feel for what my natural cycle would be like. I have a copper, not a hormonal, so my periods have been very wonky since getting the IUD after Ivy was born. I went from like a 4 day light cycle to an 8 day, heavy period, often twice a month (seeing as how they last so long). I'm really hoping that removing it will take me back to a light 3-4 day period. I am much older now, so I know the body does go through changes. But that's part of why I'd like a few trial months before we actually start "trying".

For someone so interested in birth, I really know very little about my personal cycle or natural family planning. After the IUD, my dates are all off and sometimes move around, so I really only know when to expect my period because the internet sends me a little email when it's coming up (thanks to whichever friend suggested MyMonthlyCycles.com years ago!). Back as a teen/in my early 20s, I was like clockwork and never late. Now, I'm not so sure or comfortable of my cycle anymore. It's time to relearn. I don't know when I'm ovulating. Last night I ordered this book and am eagerly looking forward to its arrival and learning all sorts of wonderful baby-making information.

I have never had the luxury of planning a child. Both of our girls were unexpected and were in fact conceived while we were on various types of birth control (the pill and condoms, respectively). It seems that I am a very fertile person *knocks wood*, so I'm hoping that it happens so easily once we're finally ready and willing to try. I especially want a son, and I've been putting that goal out into the Universe for a long time. I've dreamt of my son. I hope he's still waiting after so long. I'll admit, I've been majorly stressing over it since a friend of mine told me that she felt I would always have girls. I've probably been stressing over it way too much. But still, I want my son and plan to try until I have him! I'm excited about the idea, and while I'll love any baby that comes, I would appreciate any boy-thoughts that anyone wants to send our way. This is something I've waited a long time for, and I'm so very glad that we're now in a position to consciously welcome our next baby.

Soon. Very soon.

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theafaye
Aug. 31st, 2010 06:03 am (UTC)
If you're tracking your cycle (temp, mucus and cervix), you should be able to time for a boy (abstain a couple of days before ovulation and do it on the day) and combine that with your diet to really skew the chances. The boy diet is a lot more balanced than the girl's although you'll have to google the details - other than meat, I can't remember what's on it, since we used it for a girl. No guarantees but it significantly stacks the odds in your favour. Of course, the wee one may have other ideas - there are two of you i the equation!

Home births are fab and beautiful. Fingers crossed it works out for you.
ahavah
Aug. 31st, 2010 06:05 am (UTC)
I don't know the first thing about tracking, to be honest, which is why I'm eager for the book! I hadn't even thought you could influence it either way. I will definitely have to look into that! What should I google, exactly? Is there a name for the method or anything?

Thanks so very much! I'm really, really hoping it will all work out.
theafaye
Aug. 31st, 2010 06:31 am (UTC)
No name (apart from people trying to sell you unnecessary stuff!) - just google natural fertility and/or boy diet. It's all quite straightforward - we used cycle tracking both to conceive and not to conceive and I didn't bother checking my cervix (it moves over the month), but I did keep an eye on mucus (it's like egg white when you're fertile) and charted my temp, although the latter is a faff because you have to do it first thing before you even get up and children often distracted me!
ahavah
Aug. 31st, 2010 06:34 am (UTC)
Cool, thanks! I'll give it a shot. I always thought the dad was responsible for the sex. We'll both go on a diet! ha! I doubt I could check my cervix either. It seems to be at an odd angle, and even midwives/OBs have trouble finding it. I've never been able to check my IUD strings, which I'm supposed to be able to do. I figure I'll go with temp & discharge, though that's just from my basic knowledge. I look forward to learning more. I'm not sure if I should start before I get the IUD out, or wait to see what my cycle is like afterward.
maiabee8
Aug. 31st, 2010 12:22 pm (UTC)
Men's sperm dictates the sex but mom's acidity (and some other vaginal and uteran factors) influence which sperm get to the egg at all. X bearing sperm (girl sperm) live longer and can survive in high acid environments whereas Y bearing sperm (boy sperm) swim faster, die sooner and need a less acidic environment. Your diet could have an impact on the acidity of your vagina and uterus and thus on which sperm get to the egg.
ahavah
Aug. 31st, 2010 05:49 pm (UTC)
Hm, I guess I must be acidic. lol I'll definitely do everything I can to swing our chances towards getting a boy! So far my reading has suggested higher calories, more potassium, and eating cereal in the mornings.
kuroihime
Aug. 31st, 2010 07:31 am (UTC)
I'm really excited that I'll get to read all this. You are one of the people in the world that should definitely breed!

I've got an IUD, but mine is hormonal and basically stopped my periods. at some point, I'd love to track my own cycle, but the no-periods and really good bc is what I'm after right now. Plus, I'm not sure I'm the childbearing type.

Good luck!
ahavah
Aug. 31st, 2010 05:51 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much! I'm so glad that you think so!

I definitely think I'll go with the hormonal next time. I really like an IUD, since I don't have to think about it, pay for more every month, and we haven't had any surprise babies! I didn't want the hormonal since I'd had trouble with weight gain when I was on both the pill and Norplant. I think the weight gain would be better to deal with than bionic periods though. I'd love to have no periods!

maiabee8
Aug. 31st, 2010 12:26 pm (UTC)
Yay! I am so excited for you two! I am also interested to read about your process - you are one of the people I know who is most conscientious of what's going on with themselves physically and spiritually and you express it so well with words. :)

Boybee and I have for the first time set a "date" for when we'll start not using BC. I'm not really interested in TTC specifically but not using BC and seeing where nature takes us sounds like a better fit for me. The date is really nebulous since it's once we get our kitchen finished which, since we're doing most of the work ourselves, could be some time off in the future. :)

Wishing you the best!
ahavah
Aug. 31st, 2010 05:52 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much! I'm honored to hear that you think so.

It's an exciting process, so I wish you guys the best of luck too! On both babies and kitchen work. That's cool that you're doing it all yourself though. :)
adoptedwriter
Aug. 31st, 2010 12:51 pm (UTC)
Best wishes flowing your way! AW
ahavah
Aug. 31st, 2010 05:52 pm (UTC)
Thank you!
intrepidrayne
Aug. 31st, 2010 07:32 pm (UTC)
That's great news! I'm looking forward to reading all of your experiences this time around. :)
ahavah
Aug. 31st, 2010 08:10 pm (UTC)
Thanks so much! I'm so glad to have so many friends who are interested and supportive. I've been eagerly waiting a very long time for this opportunity. :)
dodging_fate
Aug. 31st, 2010 10:29 pm (UTC)
TTC was the most fun EVAH! My girls, too, were surprises, but we planned JT and I considered secret contraception 'cause we were having so much fun, lol!!! (well, not really, but....)
ahavah
Aug. 31st, 2010 10:34 pm (UTC)
Too awesome! I can't wait for the funnest part of trying. We'll have to have a few practice runs, I guess...
dodging_fate
Aug. 31st, 2010 10:40 pm (UTC)
hee hee... we had so many date nights I gained nearly 30 pounds from eating out, eating in, and just enjoying myself, lol! My sweet little guy is SO worth it, hee hee!!!!

ahavah
Aug. 31st, 2010 10:52 pm (UTC)
Another valid point! According to the reading theafaye suggested to me up above, it appears that women with higher caloric intake have a better chance of conceiving males. Since yours was a male, that anecdotal evidence helps to sway me. More dates! More eating! More sex! I see no negatives in this entire plan. All I need to do is find a local babysitter, I guess.
dodging_fate
Aug. 31st, 2010 10:55 pm (UTC)
I read up and tracked cycles trying to only have sex during ovulation to increase the chance of a boy... also used the higher caloric intake as an excuse, lol! I got a cheap ovulation predictor from wal*mart and we had much, much fun, lol!
ahavah
Aug. 31st, 2010 10:58 pm (UTC)
I'm still waiting on my little how-to book to teach me about tracking cycles. I'm not sure if my cycle will change or not after I get the IUD out. I may try the ovulation predictors. I tend to subscribe to the "well, let's just have sex every day" philosophy. :D
dodging_fate
Aug. 31st, 2010 11:27 pm (UTC)
every day sex is good sex, too, lol!

I have hypothyroidism so my ovulation can be tricky and if my levels are off I ovulate too late in my cycle and have a really short luteal phase making implantation nearly impossible, so I tracked for a little while before TTC for real :)
mrsgirlyduck
Sep. 1st, 2010 12:04 am (UTC)
YAY for TTC!!

If I could, I'd love to have 10 kids.
ahavah
Sep. 1st, 2010 12:19 am (UTC)
YAY - it's so exciting! I would have a house full, if I could afford them all. I'd have a dozen of my own, surrogate for families who couldn't, and adopt kids who need families. Maybe one day we could afford that. For now, I'm just glad we can finally try for a boy. :D
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